Occasionally (25-45% unscientifically), expectant mothers who first favored adoption decide to parent. Her legitimate choice can emotionally crush prospective adoptive parents (= PAP), more or less, depending on its timing. One of our PAP recently experienced this pain. After getting home from the hospital where she gave birth to a baby girl, a mother who picked the PAP decided to parent her baby girl. This mother gave me her decision and I told the PAP while they were in my office with the baby in their arms. That experience for them was like death. Painful. They are grieving and it [...]